Ok so I could pretend that I had always intended for this to be my scheduled activity for April when I outlined my happiness project in January. But that would be dishonest. I didn’t have the workshop scheduled until about a fortnight ago, although I received the voucher for Christmas so it was definitely well and truly on my list of things to do.
The truth is, the first two months haven’t gone exactly to plan and a combination of running out of steam (ie time, energy, motivation) and being disorganised had part of me thinking “screw this” but then another part of me saying “no hang on, why not just make the workshop your Happiness activity for this month?”.
So on Thursday last week, Mr L made sure he got home a bit early from work and I ventured into Auckland’s shopping district to attend my Kikki K Happiness workshop.
Kikki K run a series of workshops with various themes- including Organisation, Goals, Happiness and a new one, Mindfulness. They run for an hour and cost $50 (in NZ) and there’s the lure of a free (well, an included) gift and a discount on all items in store on the night. You know what the gift is ahead of time so if you wanted to, you could go into it with an idea of the content although I must admit, I didn’t bother doing any research and just went off the description of the workshop and also the fact that one of my themes/interests for this year is Happiness.
So at the start of the workshop were given our own Kikki K Happiness journal to take home and this formed the basis for most of the points of discussion. The session was led by Michelle, who leads all the workshops in Auckland and Hamilton and started doing so (I think) just this year. She was a graphic designer in a former life until deciding she was unhappy in her job and needed to do something different. I’m unsure if she has any formal training in Life Coaching or motivational speaking (or in fact, if you necessarily need any) but she certainly had the makings of a good facilitator for this kind of session. I felt she was a little nervous, although maybe if I hadn’t known she was new to the job I wouldn’t have picked up on this.
The other workshop participants were all female and all appeared to be twenty-somethings and early thirty-somethings, with the exception of two high school girls, (who were very sweet!)
The basic concepts discussed were not new to me, which didn’t actually matter, it was good to have them reinforced. Interestingly, Kikki K sell Gretchen Rubin’s books The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, and a large part of the workshop (and in fact the diary) seemed to be inspired by her own Happiness Project. I found this a little distracting, partly because I’d already made my own impression of her book, partly because I wondered if she was receiving any commission and also because I would have liked to add a couple more references and resources to my happiness bibliography. But it didn’t take over the workshop and given that much of my own Happiness inspiration has been derived from her writing, I didn’t really feel I could complain too much.
The main themes/messages were:
- Being happy is an active choice we make on a day-to-day basis
- Taking pleasure in the (often simple) things already present in your life is far more effective than dreaming of how future big goals are going to make you happy
- Reflecting on what makes you happy, what has made you happy in the past and being grateful for those things is vital for Happiness
- Accepting yourself and your own likes & dislikes in also crucial, rather than trying to conform to others’ ideas of what should make you happy
The diary is essentially in two sections- the first covers general reflective exercises covering mainly what I’ve mentioned above, the second is a more specific tool for analysing what would make your life happier and coming up with some steps to achieve those things, with a month-by-month plan. In other words, your own happiness project.
I left the workshop feeling relaxed and, happily, happy. It was hard to say if the workshop and the reminders it provided me re my own happiness project were the main reason for that, or if I just felt like I’d had a mental break after a particularly taxing few days with the kids. Probably a bit of both.
So my April happiness project has become to complete the diary exercises and take another look at my own happiness project and see if I can do a bit of a better job than I managed in February and March!
*Much as I would love to be endorsed by a company like Kikki K, I attended this workshop as a paying customer